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Date: Mon Dec 07 1998 - 14:43:15 PST


Dear Bhagavatas,
Presented below is Part 8 on the above subject being excerpts from my talk
during the 600th Anniversary Celebrations of Ahobila Matam held at New York
during the first week of September 1998.
Anbil Ramaswamy


My first son, Parthasarathi's wedding was celebrated. 
So, what is the big deal about it for mentioning it here? 

[May be this is too pesonal. But, it provides a peep into the compassion,
Achara and Anushtana etc.of our Swami, which I had the opportunity to observe
first hand and at close quarters. I hope you will enjoy his Kalyanagunas as
revealed in these events]

Let me explain:

 Our Swami who was known never to miss his schedule of Kalakshepams stopped
it for 2 days everywhere in order to make himself free to come to Tirupati to
perform  Adhyaksham  (i.e. preside over) the  wedding function , which was
held at Seetharama Kalyana Mandapam at Tirumalai in July 1991. The Purohits in
charge of the ritual were in mortal fear, lest they should make any mistake in
the presence of our revered Swami ! 
Is this not a big deal ?

 Not only that. It was the Tamil month of Aadi.  My would be Sambandis  were
so scared to have the wedding as they were told that it was not an auspicious
month for wedding. Our Swami personally went through the various Pramanams and
Anushtanams and gave the green signal that the wedding could be performed in
Is this not a big deal ?

(Incidentally,  Some of you would have known Sri R. Rajagopalan, CEO of Widia
India Ltd, Bangalore and Sri D.Rangaswamy, President of the Society of
Auditors and Member of the Income Tax Appellate Tribunal, Madras. It was the
daughter of the former and grand daughter of the latter whom my son married)

 As I was a Vitura (widower), I was not sure if I could do the rituals of
Jatakaranam, Namakaranam etc as a prelude to the actual function. Swami
volunteered to do these on my behalf. 
Is this not a big deal ?

 After personally consulting several authorities, he suggested that only in
the case of a bride, all these had to be done by one who is not a Vitura and
in the case of the bridegroom since all these Samskaras are already over at
the time of Upanayanam  itself,  there was no bar in my doing them.
 Is this not a big deal?

 Our Swami was accompanied by his wife. As he would not take (Paraannam) food
elsewhere,  Mami prepared food for him at Parakala Mutt premises at Tirumalai
where we had arranged for their stay. In fact, we took the delicious Prasadam
which Mami offered out of what she cooked ! 
Is this not a big deal?

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